Comments on: Baggage

By: jiovanni

jiovanni — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 23:22:47 +0000

Yeah I go to therapy and I have no problem talking about it. It’s been the best thing for me. Like you, I did go once before but it didn’t work out so I quit and then I found a therapist that works for me. She is a wonderful black woman that is helping me cope with some issues I have. I have that same funny thing with wanting a Black therapist. It’s harder to have all my doctors be Black around here unfortunately but it’s nice to have a therapist who can relate on a different level. Great post.

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Tue, 15 Jul 2008 06:14:38 +0000

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By: vivrant thang

vivrant thang — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 06:42:57 +0000

@Tiff – You got over here before I got a chance to ask you to comment. I knew you would offer an interesting perspective.

I am so excited that you are now officially licensed and able to start your own practice! I’m glad that you, a black woman, entered the field. Although I saw a White woman for my evaluation before my surgical procedure and did enjoy my time with her, I much preferred to continue therapy with a Black woman.

My therapist is very unusual in that she is does not bite her tongue. When I was talking about someone from my past, she flat out told me in so many words that he was beneath me and that it was good I was delivered from that madness. She asked me questions that made me think and realize that it was a blessing. I like the way we communicate – as only two black women can.

Thanks again for commenting.

By: Tiffakia

Tiffakia — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 00:20:15 +0000

THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for writing this blog!!!!! As you know I am a psychologist and I agree with EVERYTHING that you said. I think that it is sad that as a culture we tend to underutilize mental health services and that seeking help has been so greatly stigmatized. That is one of the things that I have decided to tackle during my career as a psychologist (the stigma attached to mental health treatment in our community). Thanks for helping to spread the word to our people that there is nothing wrong with seeking the help of a professional and that it DOES NOT in any way mean that you are crazy. I know a lot of people believe as your mother does that you should just go to church and I am happy that I have the support of my pastor at my home church in Atlanta. I have shared my cause with him and he shares in my vision. I commend you for going back to therapy the 2nd time and for really opening yourself up to the experience. It really only works if you are open to it.

By: vivrant thang

vivrant thang — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 18:44:10 +0000

@ Andrea – Thanks so much for stopping by. Any friend of B’s is cool with me! She was my first commenter so she’ll always hold a special place in my heart

I’ve said it again and again but 2008 seems to be a year of change and growth for a lot of people. Glad to hear that you are apart of that.

It hasn’t been easy to write about all of this as I am VERY aware of my audience, particularly since I’m starting to make it more public. However, my personal mission is to write to inspire and educate women [people] so that is what I must do. Glad you could relate to what I’ve been staying.

Don’t be a stranger!