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by vivrant thang on makes me wanna holler
Oh make me wanna holler / throw up both my hands
Oh, make me wanna holler/They don’t understand
Look at that face.
This is the first I’m hearing of the death of 10-month-old, Da’Niyah Marie Jackson at the hands of her mother’s boyfriend. She had been savagely beaten, bitten, and sexually assaulted.
The mother left Da’Niyah with her boyfriend while she went to work. His two-year old son was also present in the house. She came home and found the baby unresponsive and contacted the authorities after she started convulsing and went into cardiac arrest.
The “thing” has been charged and hopefully will be thrown in general population. Those criminals don’t like his kind. I hope they have all kinds of fun with him.
This story had me in tears. Can you imagine the agony she endured? This isn’t the first time this has happened and it certainly won’t be the last. I know you’re not supposed to question God, but it gets harder and harder each time. I truly do believe we are living in our last days.
My other issue with this story is the mother leaving the baby there with him. Apparently, he had two other kids with another woman and she had a restraining order on him because he assaulted her and the child. My question is, did she know this?
Let’s say she did. Did she think it was an isolated incident? Did she believe him when he told her that the baby mother was lying on him – because you know that’s what he probably told her.
Or let’s say she didn’t, why the hell not? Did she not ask the Negro any questions?
This shit makes me sick. Single mothers cannot just let any man into their lives. It’s not about you and your needs anymore. I know he didn’t just snap and commit this heinous act. He had a history and the signs are always there if you want to see them. She probably turned her head because she had herself a man. She should probably be in the jail right long with him because she is an accessory in my eyes.
I know I’m being judgemental and there could possibly be extenuating circumstances. Bottom line, this beautiful little girl died a horrible death that was preventable. There are people that are putting themselves through all kinds of mental and physical hell to bring a child into this world and then you read stories like this.
Makes we wanna holler.
RIP little one. You are truly in a better place.
Can we go back to this?
Update: Yet, another recent case. THIS animal beats his wife on the way to the hospital to get help for their 8-DAY-OLD baby, who was bleeding anally! And you think this was the first time he displayed such behavior?
I can’t even talk about this anymore.
Update #2: I just found this interesting vlog that poses similar questions as I’ve raised above. She also has some very specific ideas on what should be done to the animal that committed this heinous act.
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The self-righteousness of prisoners is rather amusing.
In any case, this story (and others like it) are truly the work of the devil. The mother may have asked this guy all the questions in the world……doesn’t mean he was forthright and honest. If its a persons intent to deceive you, they will do all they can to make sure it happens.
Its a shame we have to doubt any and everybody we meet. Its a shame that we have to do a full criminal background check on people, but its becoming more and more necessary. Yes, its a parents duty to protect their children at all costs, but I don’t feel she’s to blame for this man’s horrendous acts. Ideally, that child should be able to be ANYWHERE without ANYONE harming her. Unfortunately, crazy/sick people in the world prevent that from being a reality.
I can’t place anymore blame or guilt on the mother, because I’m sure she’s feeling enough.
B, normally, I can get with you, but I can’t get with you on this. This man had a previous history. I know he didn’t just snap and do something like this. The signs are always there. I would not be surprised if he had abused both of them before.
Of course it would be ideal if children were safe anywhere, but tragically, they aren’t. And when a woman decides to bring a child into this world, she takes on the enormous responsibility of doing everything imaginable that she can to make sure her child is safe. This especially includes watching the company you keep I don’t think this mother did that. Sure, he could have decieved her, but I still say that the signs were there and she ignored them. Too many times, these mothers are only thinking of themselves and their needs and not what’s best for the child. When you decide to have the child, you and your needs become secondary.
Not to mention, didn’t she wonder why he couldn’t see his other kids? Of course he could have made up something but somehow I don’t think that whatever he said would have been believable to an average person. Perhaps she wasn’t the average person though.
In any event, sure, she’s probably on her death bed over this as she should be.
I do appreciate your opinion. That’s what makes a blog interesting.
This story is beyond troubling. I don’t know what would possess someone to savagely attack an infant like that. It is truly depressing. I agree with Vivrant Thing when she says that the mother should have been more protective of her child and more cautious with whom she left her with. I wouldn’t go as far as charging her as an accessory because I don’t think there’s anyway she could have definitively known about this man’s criminal past. It disturbs me to think that before a woman can seriously consider dating a man, she’d have to go to the courthouse to pull his criminal record, but they may be a necessary precaution, just as B. Good says.
But I guess the lesson to be learned in all of this is to think about what a woman is willing to sacrifice just to hold down a man. Yes, everybody needs companionship, but at what cost? I’m sure that this woman had no idea that her baby girl would have to pay the ultimate cost.
Esther, thanks for commenting. I know legally she won’t be charged if she had no prior knowledge or didn’t directly participate. However, she’ll forever have to live with that guilt for allowing that man to remain in their lives after he showed who he really was (because I know he did). I hope she makes a better choice next time around.
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Thank you so much for further spreading the word sista on this tragedy. As a victim of incest from 7 years old until I was 14, this tore my heart apart. How any human being can possible look to do that to a child is beyond my own comprehension. I have and Autistic daugther, who cannot speak for herself. If someone was to touch her I made up my mind I would just have to do my time.
This has caused me to stay single after my divorce. It is so difficult to find someone I can absolutely trust around my daughter. Through my own experience I know that family members can do the same thing. So for people who are judging that mother, sometimes though sista Vibrant a person doesn’t always reveal their true colors. If a person wants to be deceptive they can.
I feel she knew though about his temper and his personality. I hope never (and God is my witness) to NEED OR WANT A DAMN MAN that much to ignore ANY signs. and you are right SHE has to live with that EVERY DAY. She is in her OWN hell right now.
Sad lesson to learn….REST IN PEACE BABY DA’NIYAH
Dee,
Wow – I really appreciate you stopping by and sharing that. I especially understand your anger over this, as a survivor of abuse. Believe me.
I agree that people can be deceptive. I know that ALL too well. I guess the problem I’m having is that this animal already had a restraining order against him where he previously abused his baby mother AND his own child, which says to me he is a habitual domestic abuser. I would bet everything I have that he showed signs of violence before if he wasn’t outright beating her. I actually hope he did snap and she had no prior knowledge. That would help ease my mind about this somewhat. But Lord, if he had been violent all along and she stayed there….
I’m just so tired of these stories. I will NEVER understand the mentality of a woman who puts any negro before her child. That’s not something to be understood. I don’t have to be a parent to say that’s not something any WOMAN would do.
It hurts because I know several people who would give all they have right now to have a child. I know two couples who spent THOUSANDS on fertility treatments. And you have people practically throwing babies away…swinging them around like baseball bats (did you hear about that case?) WTF is that about?!
Let me get off my soap box.
I really appreciate you sharing your story and your thoughts and I’m glad your little girl has a mother like you to protect her.
Hello,
I received this story in a forwarded email and I just had to search it for myself. I just cannot believe that this continues to happen. This is so disgusting. I have a 3 year old daughter and I have not let her out of my sight for more than a couple of hours since she has been in this world. I have only left her with my mother, and my husband (her father).
Why is it that these mothers can’t get it through their heads that they have to protect these children? We cannot trust just anyone, and we definitely can’t trust a man with a female that is not his child. It does not matter what age they are, a female child is just a female to a man who is uncontrollably sex-driven. What world are these mothers living in? These days we have to watch some of the fathers too, so why would you leave your child with this man? STOP THIS!!! I blame these mothers for being selfish. They are selfish because they put their own needs before that of their children. You know what, I would rather have no job and be broke and at ease, knowing that my child is safe. This is YOUR responsibility now. I bet you your child will love you more for being there, protecting and loving him/her throughout the years, more than if you left him/her in an unsafe environment to go to a job that you hate to barely make the damn rent anyway.
I have three seperate tragedies that happened to people close to me. In the first, a cousin was using this guy because he had money. He was not very attractive and loved this woman even though she would barely even sleep with him. She has 3 daughters (ages5,7 and 8) that she would leave in the house with this man who she wouldn’t have sex with. What the F*CK did she think was going to happen? He raped her middle child and gave her gonnorhea. My family was traumatized. He is still on the run and that was about 10 years ago. The second was a friend of the family. She let this lady in the neighborhood keep her sons. This lady worked at the school and everything. She ignored the signs her oldest son gave her. He was starting be closed off. One day she let her youngest walk to the store with one of the lady’s sons. After being gone too long, she started to look from the window to see if she saw them. After a while they appeared from the stairwell and she knows that she didn’t see them walking back. Her son rushed into the house and the boy left. She went to the bathroom where her 5 year old son ran to. She found him vigorously shaking and saw something on his head. This nasty ass boy had rushed back, took the 5 yr. old to the top of the building and molested him. He then came all over him and brought him back to his mama. Come to find out, this lovely teacher’s aid was molesting all 3 of her son’s ages 9, 13. &17 at the time, and they were all having sex with each other too. The last is of a friend of my cousin. She had 18 mo. old twins. She was very young and of course needed boyfriend. Her new so-called boyfriend was taking ectasy one night at her home. While she slept comfortably in her bedroom, he was molesting one of her daughters in their room. In an attempt to make sure the mother didn’t hear her screams, he covered her face with a pillow. So while he raped thing little girl, which was more than enough pain, he was also suffocating her. At this time, my baby was 6 monthes old. I cried like a baby, trying not imagine this happening to my child. As a mother, I vow to my child that someone would have to kill me first before they could do anything to her.
Grow up mothers! You had these children, so take the responsibility and take care of them. Watch for the signs, and if you have even a small question about anyone… RUN, RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!
Sorry for the Smiley, don’t know how it happened. Ages 5, 7 and 9.
@ Tam – Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
I am especially glad to have mothers comment that are doing the right thing by their children. You speak so much truth in all you’ve said, especially about taking responsibility. These women CHOSE to have these children and they need to put their needs second. Again, I’m glad that you’re a responsible parent and I wish there were more like you.
These stories you share are so tragic that I had to stop reading. All I could think of is the trauma these children were and will go through. I know you’re not supposed to question God – but what did they do to deserve any of this? They didn’t ask to come here. I know so many couples that are going through so much to bring a child into this world and these animals are probably laying down once and procreating. Sickening.
It’s not anything I’ll ever be able to wrap my mind around.
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I really hate that people have so much to say about something you DONT no shit about I look on the internet to see what people have to say and being that the mother is my bestfriend i dont agree and i think you should check out something before you pass judgement
My mother is my best friend too, Chifawn. I’m not sure I understand your point. If you care to elaborate further, feel free. But you will have to do so in a respectful manner or we can’t dialogue about this. That’s how we roll on this site.
I understand u 100%..If a child should never be left with a mother’s boyfriend..Even if there is a tight bond there it just is not good for the child or does not look good..As a child my mother never put me in a situation where i was going to be sexually abused..she herself was and that is what opened up her eyes and made it clear to me that if anyone was to touch me let someone know..and i cna say u have an excellent point and i will never leave my child with a male or female that i can not trust..now days even close family members are being accused of child abuse…KEEP DOING UR THING GIRL…GET THIS WORD ACROSS TO ALL PARENTS..NOT JUST MOTHERS BUT FATHERS AS WELL!!!!
You dont understand am sayin Da’Niyah’s Mother is my bestfriend and you should do some research about what you are taking about and i feel like your disrespecting my Bestfriend more like my sister so hey you dont know her and i kno that because i dont kno you so all i was sayin is dont pass jugdement about a person you no nothing about