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Happy Valentine’s Day
Every day the 14th!
I don’t think y’all heard me!
I just wanna say Happy Valentine’s Day!
Every day the 14th!
Can y’all dig that?

Until last year, Valentine’s Day was a big deal for me. In high school, I remember watching the popular girls walking around with their huge balloons, flowers and teddy bears. In college and beyond, the timing was always off. Either I hadn’t been dating anyone for a while, was only involved with a FEPO (for entertainment purposes only), or I had just broken up with the person I was seeing just before that day.

Last year, up to about a month before, it looked like it would be more of the same. That is until one of the exes popped up wanting to get back. While we were getting reacquainted, I casually mentioned that I had never had a nice Valentine’s Day [read: you need to make it happen]. He promised to make the day special for me. It had only taken 29 years. I was too hype.

He went all out with the planning and it was all very creatively done. As he started to reveal parts of the agenda for the evening, I was thrilled with the effort. I took care of everything on my end as far as my girly maintenance and outfits for the show and the “afterparty.” Other than that, I was instructed to just show up and be my “vivrant” self. I can’t lie. I was enjoying a man working to earn my affection. And it was going to be on Valentine’s Day – finally!

The evening didn’t quite go off without a hitch. I won’t tell the entire story but let’s just say it all came thisclose to being ruined. I had to let Jesus take the wheel and we got through it and went on to have a nice time.

In hindsight, while I greatly appreciated someone making the extra effort to ensure that I finally had a nice Valentine’s Day , it’s really just another day. What’s really important is how we spend the other 364 days of the year. For all he did on that day to get back in, less than two months later, it was quite apparent that nothing had really changed between us the second time around.

I will never become anti-Valentine’s Day, but in a future relationship, I don’t want that to ever be the only day that Mr. Vivrant Thang feels he has to put a little extra effort into us. I believe in regular date nights. Weekend getaways just for a change of scenery. Sweet “just thinking about you” notes left in random places. Naughty calls or texts in the middle of the day. It’s up to both of us to keep the fires going year round.

Now on to the music.

As you can tell by my Top 50 list, I am a fan of the slow and sexy jams. Over the years I’ve mixed up my share of slow and sexy CDs. Now, I like to leave it to the professionals.

The HNIC of my favorite music site, Soul Bounce, shares a couple of mixes he cooked up. Head on over there and grab them. Warning, one of them is called “The Babymaker.” Don’t say I didn’t tell you.

I was excited to see that fellow Jersey native T Grundy of Rhythms in Black Satin had issued a call a call for a carnival of Valentine’s Day mixes. Make sure you stop by Cupid’s Hunt: Searching for Love Music in All The Right Places and set your evening off right…better yet, your entire year off right.

For now, we do things a little more low-tech over here. If I had the time and the know-how, I would have turned my list into a podcast and participated. In any event, I thought I would share some of the songs that were a part of last year’s Valentine’s Day celebration. I decided to break them down into “The Show, The Afterparty, The Hotel.”

Enjoy, but make every day the 14th!

The Show

Fortunate Maxwell
Say YesFloetry
Pretty Brown EyesMint Condition
I Care 4 UAaliyah
He Loves MeJill Scott
Soul SistaBilal
Voyage to AtlantisIsley Brothers
Damn UPrince
I Need LoveRobin Thicke
Imagination – Floetry
Queen of SanityBilal
Let’s ChillGuy
A Love of My OwnAverage White Band
YouRaheem Devaughn

The Afterparty

I Love YouKeith Washington
You Don’t Have to Go HomeBoney James
Softest LipsEric Roberson
Ask YourselfRaheem Devaughn
Do You MindJanet Jackson
Anytime, AnyplaceJanet Jackson
Can We Make LoveSilk
If Only For One NightLuther
Yearning for Your LoveGap Band
International LoverPrince
When We Make LoveGinuwine
Three Letter Word – Jamie Foxx
Softest Place on Earth – Xscape
Hurry, Hurry – Pete Belasco
Can’t Get Enough – Tamia
Come Inside -Intro
Reasons– Earth, Wind and Fire
All This Love – Debarge
Love Won’t Let Me Wait – Luther
Once, Twice, Three Times – Howard Hewitt
The Beautiful OnesPrince

The Hotel

Lay DownFloetry
Turn Off the LightsTeddy Pendergrass
Sex Me (Parts 1 & 2)R Kelly
Til The Cops Come KnockinMaxwell
Slow LovePrince
White Turns To GreyBilal
Between the SheetsIsley Brothers
The Greatest SexR Kelly
Do Me BabyPrince
Seconds of PleasureVan Hunt
Untitled (How Does It Feel)D’Angelo
The Art of LoveToni Braxton
Uhh AhhBoyz to Men
Sweet Sour UBilal
Sumthin Sumthin (Mellosmoothe)Maxwell
You Got The BombBrian McKnight
Your Love Is KingSade