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Unpretty

12 Monday Nov 2007

Posted by Vivrant Thang in Feeding The Music Jones

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daily news and what's going on, donda west death, kanye west, tlc song unpretty

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You can buy your hair if it won’t grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make up
That M.A.C. can make
But if you can’t look inside you
Find out who am I too
Be in the position to make me feel
So damn unpretty
I’ll make you feel unpretty too

News of the passing of Dr. Donda West, Kanye’s mother, is very unsettling to say the least. She was only two years younger than my mother. Talk about being shook.

Before the details were released, my first thought was a sudden heart attack. Then to hear that she died after an adverse reaction to anethesia during a cosmetic procedure, which is rumored to have been a breast augmentation and a tummy tuck, truly saddens me. Why is a 58-year old woman, especially one with a “Dr.” before her name, having a boob job and a tummy tuck?

You know why.

She was in the spotlight. She’s Kanye’s momma. She was dealing with the industry pressure to be “perfect.” At 58. She had a PhD and a successful career as a tenured professor. As a single mom, she raised a extremely talented son who is making a stong impact on the face of hip hop. And she did it so well that she wrote a book about it.

Yet, she had to be up on stage alongside Kanye in front of a brutal industry that expects celebrities to be flawless and “on” 24/7. Being human is unacceptable. I just wish she had been able to ignore all that and say “Look, I’m 58 years old. I’ve achieved a top level education and career. I have successfully raised a black man on my own. I’ll never have to want for anything again. If they hate, then let them hate.”

However, all that is not enough, if inside you’re feeling unpretty.

My prayers are with Kanye and his family. The pain of losing a mother never goes away.

R.I.P. Dr. Donda West

Update: I really don’t like the implications here. I truly hope she didn’t ignore her pre-existing medical conditions and have these procedures anyway. I hope these are just more rumors.

2nd update: This story just keeps getting worse. You mean to tell me she didn’t research this doctor?! I can’t believe Kanye knew about this. Not that you can tell your Momma what to do. But I bet if he did, he would have been able to talk her out of it.

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I don’t want to offend all the other parents, but I’ll put you up against anybody else’s mom. I definitely have the best.”
—Kanye West (Essence Magazine)

Listen to an interview that Butta from Soul Bounce did with Dr. West just two months ago.

Read an excellent post that expounds on what I’m saying here.

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And Now A Break From Our Regularly Scheduled Programming….

09 Friday Nov 2007

Posted by Vivrant Thang in Feeding The Music Jones

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All About Me, bilal fan, erykah badu kiss me on my neck, gastric bypass, weight loss surgery

I’ve been tagged. Lady Butta over at It’s Like Butta Baby wants me to share seven completely random facts about myself. I thought about doing this over at the Myspace, but I figure eh, ya’ll need to get to know Vivrant Thang a little better.

There are rules I’m supposed to post and follow. But I’m a rebel.

1. I stalk soul singer, Bilal up and down the East Coast. I’ve been to see him in Philly, NYC, and here in DC three times this year. Tonight in DC makes four and Philly next month will be five. Yea, I’m obsessive like that.

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2. I started kindergarten just months after I turned 4. I was class president too! So I’ve always been a year younger than my classmates. Entered high school at 13. College at age 17. 800 miles from home ya’ll. I always been grown 🙂

3. I used to want to be a journalist. When I was just 17, I interned for two summers at The Newark Star-Ledger as a feature reporter. I went out on assignments with a photographer and came back to the office to write my story. I was the real thing. Still have the clips in my portfolio.

4. I used to be 150lbs heavier.

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Yes, I had that surgery a little over 2 years ago. It saved my life. As you can see, I don’t have the Star Jones bobble head look. Obviously, I’m not skinny. Didn’t do it to be skinny. It saved my life. I weighed more than Shaq.

In many ways, life has changed for me. However, in many ways, it’s stayed the same.

I can’t believe I posted that. But hey, you never know who might see this and who it might help. I may write a book about my experiences someday since my online journal about it has been such a big hit. So might as well get comfortable with it.

5. I have a strange…phobia if you will. I can’t stand to see men with those huge, disgusting bumps or lumps on the back of their heads. I think ya’ll know what I’m talking about. Not the normal small ones he may get on occasion from the razor. I’m talking about the big nasty ones that go all along the back of the head and no hair will grow there. Seriously, it doesn’t just disgust me. I actually feel nauseous and have to move away. My skin starts crawling. If that was to ever happen to the man I end up with, he would have to rock a skully 24/7 to get up in my mix.

I want somebody to walk up behind me
And kiss me on my neck
and breathe on my neck
E Badu (Kiss Me on My Neck)

No can do!

6. I am subscribed to over 100 blogs on topics including music, politics, lifestyle, sports, literature, finance, nonprofit, technology, and women’s issues. I’m just random like that. The ones on my blogroll are just a sample. I only get to read a few of them a day, if that. But I can’t bring myself to unsubscribe!

7. I collect coffee table books on a variety of topics. I currently have about 40 of them on various subjects – black art, photography, music, wine, nudes, interior design, and sex.

Guess which ones are my favorites.

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Young, Gifted, and Black!

07 Wednesday Nov 2007

Posted by Vivrant Thang in Feeding The Music Jones

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Ashley Reed, ASRClothing, Avant Gaudy, businessweek, Deborah Umunnabuike, donnie hathaway, donny hathaway young gifted and black, Eden Body Works, entrepreneurs, Jasmine Lawrence, Jessica Umunnabuike, mirassou, Prolete Medical Billing, Sisters Doing It For Themselves, Studio10Fourteen, Ubong Attah, young gifted and black

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To be young, gifted and black
We must begin to tell our young
Don’t you know there’s a whole world waiting for you?
Don’t you know the quest has just begun for you?

On my “Who’s That Girl?” page, I list a few of my negative traits. I know it’s hard to believe, but yes, your girl Vivrant Thang has a flaw or five. The one that probably haunts me the most is my tendency to procrastinate and my lack of discipline with certain things. These are probably two things that have kept me from true greatness. Not saying that I’m doing half bad, but there’s so much more I know I could do if I would just become more disciplined and stop wasting time!

I have few regrets in life but one is that I wish I would have defined my career path in my early to mid-twenties. I let myself fall into IT after obtaining my Masters in English (don’t ask). Although this field has opened up doors to a great side hustle and I’m finding a way to blend my experience in the field with my passion for literature, I still have the occasional shoulda, woulda, coulda thoughts.

I admire young women who discover their mission early in life like my good friend Ro, a seasoned nonprofit executive at 24! It inspires me. So I was excited to see that Business Week’s top entrepreneurs age 25 and under had some women of color up in the mix. Sisters that are already doing it for themselves! Check them out! All bio information taken from the Business Week site. They are holding a contest in which readers can vote on which business has the most promise. Make sure you cast your vote for one of these promising business women.

Ashley Reed, 21, ASR Clothing (Detroit)

ashley_reed1.jpgReed started her business after classmates in high school commented on her custom-designed clothes and asked her to design pieces for them. She says that fashion design has always been her passion. Reed says she doesn’t spend too much time worrying about her age, as she’s busy running her business and majoring in retailing at Michigan State during the regular academic year and majoring in fashion merchandising and management at the Fashion Institute of Technology in the summer. Reed expects to complete both degrees in 2008.

Her five-employee business has been featured in newspapers and magazines, and most of its clients are high school or college students from the U.S. but she says recently it has received international orders. For now, she’s investing in equipment that allows her to speed up production and is planning to expand when she graduates.

 

Ubong Attah, 23, Studio10Fourteen and Prolete Medical Billing (Dallas)

Ubong Attah describes herself as a serial entrepreneur. She ran a tutoring business in high school, taught herself Web design in college, then started a Web design firm her senior year called Studio10Fourteen, which she says is profitable and continues to operate. Ubong recently sold another business, an online jewelry shop, for around $55,000.

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Because she was recently diagnosed with systemic lupus, she has turned her attention to starting a home-based business. Her new company, Prolete Medical Billing, makes use of her health-information management degree from Saint Louis University in St. Louis and her experience doing administrative work for her mother’s two home health agencies. Ubong expects Prolete to have revenues of around $4 million in 2008.

Deborah Umunnabuike, 23; Jessica Umunnabuike, 21, Avant Gaudy, Chicago

“I’m looking to learn how to create a more socially responsible business,” says Deborah Umunnabuike, a political science major at the University of Chicago and co-founder of Avant Gaudy, an online vintage clothing shop she started with her sister, Jessica, an undergraduate at Hofstra University, in the summer of 2005. The daughters of Nigerian immigrants started the three-employee business because they were passionate about clothes and saw a growing demand among their peers for vintage clothing. And they soon realized that there was a growing demand abroad as well, specifically in parts of Europe, Southeast Asia, and Australia, based on analyzing Web traffic to their site, almost 26,000 visitors from more than 30 countries. The sisters recruited Hong Kong native Vincent Choi to bring a global perspective to the business and better reach shoppers in Asia.

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Deborah says running the business has made her want to become a serial entrepreneur, but until she graduates in 2009, she will continue to run it conservatively. She is also involved with the Forte Foundation, a group dedicated to creating young women business leaders, and is interested in continuing community work in the spirit of Avant Gaudy’s DIY/Smashup Chicago, a daylong networking and trade-show event she organized in 2006 for craftspeople and entrepreneurs.

Jasmine Lawrence, 16, Eden Body Works, Williamstown, N.J.

lawrence.jpgWhen she was just 11, Jasmine was on her way to becoming an entrepreneur. After a chemical hair relaxer caused almost all of her hair to fall out, Jasmine decided to make her own. She researched natural hair-care products online but wasn’t satisfied. She found that most of them weren’t all-natural products, so she put her allowance together and made her own, using ingredients such as lavender oil. “I thought I must not be the only one out there with this kind of problem,” she explains. “I wanted to share my invention with the world.”

Lawrence participated in programs sponsored by the National Foundation for Teaching Entrepreneurship, which she says helped her to start “a real business” and gave her pro bono legal and financial help she used to launch Eden Body Works. In short order, she got a business license, a tax ID number, insurance, women’s and minority business certificates, and a trademark on her company’s name. After borrowing $2,000 from her parents, the high school junior launched her company (working before school and after finishing her homework). This year she expects to earn $100,000 in sales. (she’s 16 ya’ll).

Her products can be found in Walmart and Whole Foods and she’s been featured on Oprah and the Montel Williams show.

Again, she’s 16.

What are you doing with your life?

Update: Has this post left you feeling inspired? A reader left this in the comments. Good stuff!

If you or any women you know want to start their own business, there is a great contest going on called “Make Your Dreams Come True With Mirassou”. They will be awarding one aspiring business woman $50,000 plus a team of professional consultants to help kick start her business! Visit the site for more info. The deadline to enter is December 15, 2007

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He Makes Me Wanna “Shoop!”

06 Tuesday Nov 2007

Posted by Vivrant Thang in Feeding The Music Jones

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dj driis, idris elba, its likebutta baby, Makes Me Wanna Shoop, soul bounce

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If looks could kill you would be an uzi
You’re a shotgun – bang! What’s up with that thang?
I wanna know how does it hang?
Straight up, wait up, hold up, Mr. Lover
Like Prince said you’re a sexy mutha-

I’m not normally in the habit of committing violence against my friends. But when my girl Butta told me she was going to interview Idris Elba (he’ll always be Stringer Bell to me) before his gig in DC earlier this year, I seriously thought about how I could get rid of her, hide the body, and transform myself into a 5’3, freckle-faced Tamia look-alike so I could go in her place!

In case I hadn’t mentioned it before, this is the ideal for me, my “type” if you will.

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Hell, how could this not be any woman’s type?

As you may or may not know, Stringer is a DJ.

“I’m crazy for you Mr DJJJJJJJ!”

Sorry, a little Yvette Michele “Everyday & Everynight” flashback.

Where was I? Yes, so Stringer is the artist also known as DJ Driis. According to Butta, he’s got mad skillzzzz and had her doin’ the butt ’til the break of dawn like she was at the first House Party with Kid and them.

Check out the interview over at Soul Bounce.

Mmm….gotta love a man with an accent. Makes you wanna shoop!

Smooth black skin with a smile
Bright as the sun, I wanna have some fun
Come and give me some of that yum-yum
Chocolate chip, honey dip, can I get a scoop? (please)
Baby, take a ride in my coupe, you make me wanna…

Shoop shoop ba-doop
Shoop ba-doop
Shoop ba-doop ba-doop ba-doop
Shoop shoop ba-doop (Don’t you know I wanna shoop, baby)
Shoop ba-doop
Shoop ba-doop ba-doop ba-doop

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Makes Me Wanna Holler : Apparently, I’m “Uptight and Bourgie”

05 Monday Nov 2007

Posted by Vivrant Thang in Feeding The Music Jones

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babies, essence magazine, kids, makes me wanna holler song by marvin gaye, single mother hood, single parents, What's Going On

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Oh make me wanna holler / throw up both my hands
Oh, make me wanna holler/They don’t understand

Apparently, 2008 will be a baby extravaganza. I know at least five women who are expecting, one of whom is very close to me. It was a bit unexpected, but she’s happy. Another friend is expecting twins after a long and expensive road to conception. I’m thrilled for her. So babies have been on the brain lately, but not in the way you would think.

This past Saturday, I was at my monthly Essence Magazine / Jungle Fever-esque sista girl discussion with a group of black professional women, all between the ages of 28-38. It’s not a set group that attends everytime, but the majority of the women that come are never married with no children. The conversation flowed from topic to topic as it usually does when a group of women get together.

Believe it or not, we rarely discuss this, but as fate would have it, we got on the topic of who among us had gotten “the talk” from our doctors about conception over the age of 30. Many of the women said that their doctors told them they had better hurry up and get pregnant because the clock was ticking. Not that they had any medical issues that would be alleviated with a pregnancy. Now that, I could understand. Nope…just that their eggs were becoming hard-boiled.

I haven’t gotten the talk from my doctor yet. She just writes my prescription for the baby blocking stuff and sends me on my way. I don’t have any female issues so I would look at her cross-eyed if she even fixed her lips to say that, especially since she doesn’t see any indication of a change in my marital status. I am just turning 30 though so it may be coming.

My issue is why is it acceptable to tell a single woman that she better hurry up and have kids just because she’s getting older? Or better yet, why does it seem that something is wrong with a single woman over 30 if she doesn’t have kids? When did that become the norm?

Lately, when meeting men and they find out my age, they ask “You don’t have any kids?” Or “Why don’t you have any kids? Don’t you like kids?” Pardon moi, but I’m here talking to you, which means I’m single. So it would follow, in my “skewed” line of thinking, that could be the very reason why I don’t have any kids. I mean have we gotten to the point that single motherhood and out-of-wedlock births are par for the course?

Then on the flip side, two of my girlfriends that got married last year said that even before they got engaged, people were already asking the couple when they were going to get pregnant?! I mean can they make it down the aisle and make this thing legitimate? Can the ink dry on the marriage license before conceiving a little crumb snatcher? I just don’t get that.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not certainly trying to down single mothers. It’s much harder work in one day than I do in a week. Hell, I was raised by one for several years after the death of my father and before she remarried. I am also not against women who decide – look, I want a child. The man may or may not come, but I want to be a mother. In a way, I admire that. That’s not my personal choice, but I can understand it. When the maternal instinct is there, it can be strong. I’ve had it myself for years, but I’m not interested in that kind of lifestyle change while I’m single. I have no desire to do it on my own. Call me and women like me uptight and bourgie all you want. Just make sure the t-shirts are cute.

 

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